What can I do to be better?
This may be a question you conscientiously ask yourself on a daily basis, but do you ever approach the subject with others? How many times in the past month have you asked your colleague, partner, child or parent how you can be a better colleague, partner, child or parent? Expert coach Marshall Goldsmith says probably not enough, in fact, probably never.
Last week,The Growth Faculty hosted Marshall Goldsmith to speak in Australia and New Zealand. As the world’s #1 leadership thinker and #1 executive coach, the day was packed with exceptional advice delivered in interactive sessions. Throughout the day, Goldsmith had the audience on their feet, on stage, clapping, texting loved ones and even raising over $2000 towards a local charity. Side note, Marshall Goldsmith has raised over $1 million through his speaking engagements throughout the years.
The "What Got You Here, Won't Get You There" seminar was a power-punching advice stream with some audience members describing it as "Incredibly Helpful" and the "Only event you should take time out of the office for." With hours of rich content, we will be bringing you a four-part blog series on his most poignant pieces of leadership advice.
During one of his most popular sessions, Marshall Goldsmith asked his audience to get out their phones and text their partners this simple question “What can I do to be a better partner?" What people got back in response was no surprise to Goldsmith – questions & concern. Goldsmith says this is because we don’t proactively seek out advice enough. Here are six powerful steps that work both in the office and at home to assist you in becoming a better person.
Ask - Simply ask the question “What can I do to be a better leader/colleague/partner/child/parent”?
Listen & Think - The first thing we need to do after asking others this question is to listen. Our response may be to react in denial or defensiveness. Goldsmith suggests putting aside your ego, fighting that urge. Just stop and listen, no explanations.
Thank - After we’ve thought about the suggestion we must thank the individual. Be genuine with your thanks be it verbal or written.
Respond & Involve - Now you are ready to insert these suggestions into your daily routine. Goldsmith says the key to implementing these changes include setting a clear goal, writing down that goal and then publically stating the goal. Try asking for ideas for the future and not feedback from the past.
Change - Goldsmith asks: Can people change? Definitely. Will people change? Maybe. It is up to you.
Follow Up - Following up with the suggestion maker is the last step and also key for making change. Your follow-up must be frequent as this is more important than duration.
Next week make sure to tune into the second part of our Marshall Goldsmith four-part blog series where we will be discussing his new book “Triggers” and the topic about today’s ‘perfect storm’ for distraction
We would love to know what we could do to become a better education provider. Text us your response @growthfaculty with the hashtag #whatcanIdobetter. We also encourage you to practice this with your colleagues, partners, children and parents. Let us know if it made a difference in your relationships.